After a life filled with narcissism, I’d had enough.
Life began for me as a highly sensitive child being raised by a narcissistic mother and an absent, yet enabling father. And, as these stories usually go, I fell straight into the arms of a covert narcissist in early adulthood (who I ended up marrying and having children with).
It wasn’t until I was around 28 that I would learn all about empaths and finally start to have some answers as to why I was so different. Why I felt so much and why I couldn’t help but be kind, empathetic and compassionate, even to those who did not deserve it.
Moving forward another seven years to the age of 35 and I had very strong suspicions that my husband was a narcissist. I’d been unhappy for as long as I could remember, but children, low self-worth and a feeling of being incredibly trapped had kept me there.
Alas, I did hit the tipping point which allowed me to finally break free. But while separating and getting my own place gave me a huge sense of freedom in the beginning… with PTSD and narcissistic abuse, that was only the tip of the iceberg.
Moving out doesn’t mean the abuse stops. Separation or divorce doesn’t mean the abuse stops.
The only way to really put an end to narcissistic abuse lies within. It was time for me to learn how to put myself first, for the very first time in my life. I had to practice self-care every, single day. Finding a strong sense of self-worth, assertiveness and confidence was required. As well as setting firm boundaries with the narcissists in my life and instilling No Contact or Low Contact with them.
I’ve been incredibly hard on myself for ignoring the red flags, which were there right from the beginning. I’ve had to learn to forgive myself for giving the narc years longer and a million chances more than he ever deserved.
But, as most of us know, they are masterful manipulators. Even the most intelligent, self-assured people can fall prey to the narcissist.
I believe, deep in my soul, that we’ve now hit a point in time for narcissism to be exposed. While the word ‘Narcissist’ remains misunderstood and ‘secret,’ the narcs will continue to wreak havoc on others. It’s high time for their masks to slip so that people are truly able to see who and what they’re dealing with.
In all honesty, the only way that I’ve been able to genuinely shift my own trauma and rise beyond PTSD (rather than just managing it), has been in learning how to release my wounds once and for all.
This has been an ongoing process, which must be accessed on an energetic level via a spiritual medium (see below). Through shifting and releasing the old traumas and patterns on a soul level, I’ve been able to heal on the deepest of levels.
Once there are no more old, unhealed wounds within your own energetics, the energy-grabbing narcissists will no longer have anything to rip open and attack.
Now I really am healing myself, meeting myself within and rising beyond those low vibrations, which is the only space narcissistic people can reside. No longer will they be a part of my reality.
No matter what your relationship is with the narcissist/s in your life, healing up your traumas is the key to your own personal sovereignty and freedom!
I hope some of my personal stories and information throughout this website help you on your own journey of recovery from narcissistic abuse, so that you can embrace the incredible life that you’re meant to be living.
Victoria xx
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Words From the Readers…
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Hi Victoria, my narc has a cold therefore acting like she’s dying. So, I’m here hiding in the bathroom taking a break and reading your website. You are one of the few who truly seems to understand it. So many out there act like they do, but you can tell that they have never lived with it.
This is both hideous and helpful, in the very best sense of the word. Thank you for writing it, Victoria, and to HG Tudor for the platform. Having found him and his materials, it has given me the insight and understanding I lacked, which allowed me to leave my narcissist (as well as grieve so I don’t go back).
I only wish I had this 10 years ago. Thank you again.
Soul Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
