Narcissism isn’t a new phenomenon. In fact, it’s been a part of the human condition for eons. However, as we evolve individually and collectively, negative and unacceptable behaviours are becoming less tolerated as education and awareness increase.
Here’s a compilation of songs about narcissists from multiple sources around the web.
As with all things artistic, lyrics are often open for your own interpretation and can speak to us all in different ways depending on our personal experiences.
With these songs about narcissists, take them as they resonate for you.
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Songs About Narcissists
Here we go, songs about narcissists in alphabetical order (artist’s first name)…
Adele – ‘Set Fire To The Rain’
All the things you’d say
All the things you’d say
All the things you’d say
I let it fall, my heart
And as it fell, you rose to claim it
It was dark and I was over
Until you kissed my lips and you saved me
My hands, they’re strong
But my knees were far too weak
To stand in your arms
Without falling to your feet
But there’s a side to you
That I never knew, never knew
All the things you’d say
They were never true, never true
And the games you play
You would always win, always win
| This song shows the truth about how narcissists swoop in as the ‘saviour’ and manipulate through their words, but end up destroying you. |
Alicia Keys – ‘A Brand New Me’
It’s been a while, I’m not who I was before
You look surprised, your words don’t burn me anymore
Been meaning to tell you, but I guess it’s clear to see
Don’t be mad, it’s just the brand new kind of me
Can’t be bad, I found a brand new kind of free
Careful with your ego, he’s the one that we should blame
Had to grab my heart back
God know something had to change
I thought that you’d be happy
I found the one thing I need, why you mad
It’s just the brand new kind of me
It took a long long time to get here
It took a brave, brave girl to try
It took one too many excuses, one too many lies
Don’t be surprised, don’t be surprised
If I talk a little louder
If I speak up when you’re wrong
If I walk a little taller
I’d be known to you too long
If you noticed that I’m different
Don’t take it personally
Don’t be mad, it’s just the brand new kind of me
And it ain’t bad, I found a brand new kind of free
| ‘A Brand New Me’ talks about the journey of healing and growing beyond the narcissist. |
Baby Queen – ‘Narcissist’
When I was just a girl, I read a magazine
It said, “You can have the world if you look pretty
But you’ll never be enough, so avoid humiliation
And stop looking for love when all you need is validation”
So I grew up kind of hating myself
And letting all you motherf***ers monetize my mental health
By making me believe that my personal success
Was dependent on my weight and the way that I dress
Oh, oh
I hate it when you ask me, what’s your problem?
Oh, oh
As if you don’t already know
I’m a f***ing narcissist
Yeah, that’s what my problem is
You’re the one that started this
But I’m a fucking nar-, nar-
| Words from the mouth of a self-aware narcissist who knows what they are, but wears it as a badge, rather than wanting to change. |
Britney Spears – ‘Toxic’
Baby, can’t you see I’m calling?
A guy like you should wear a warning
It’s dangerous, I’m falling
There’s no escape, I can’t wait
I need a hit, baby, give me it
You’re dangerous, I’m loving it
Too high, can’t come down
Losing my head, spinnin’ ’round and ’round
Do you feel me now?
With a taste of your lips, I’m on a ride
You’re toxic, I’m slippin’ under
With a taste of a poison paradise
I’m addicted to you
Don’t you know that you’re toxic?
And I love what you do
Don’t you know that you’re toxic?
| ‘Toxic’ perfectly portrays the addiction of being with a narcissist and the trauma bonding process. |
Carly Simon – ‘You’re So Vain’
You walked into the party like you were walking onto a yacht
Your hat strategically dipped below one eye
Your scarf it was apricot
You had one eye in the mirror, as you watched yourself gavotte
And all the girls dreamed that they’d be your partner
They’d be your partner and
You’re so vain
You probably think this song is about you
| This is one of the most famous songs about narcissists. It was so clearly written about an incredibly vain and entitled person. The singer has only ever told a few people (in confidence) who it was written about. |
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The Chicks – ‘Gaslighter’
Gaslighter, denier
Doin’ anything to get your ass farther
Gaslighter, big timer
Repeating all of the mistakes of your father
We moved to California and we followed your dreams
I believed in the promises you made to me
Swore that night ’till death do us part
But you lie-lie-lie-lie-lied
Hollywood welcomed you with open doors
No matter what they gave you, you still wanted more
Acting all above it when our friends divorced
What a lie-lie-lie-lie-lie
| This song about a narcissist openly calls them out as a gaslighter who will do anything to get ahead… and yet, it’s still never enough to satiate their empty void. |
Christina Perri – ‘Jar of Hearts’
I know I can’t take one more step towards you
‘Cause all that’s waiting is regret
Don’t you know I’m not your ghost anymore
You lost the love I loved the most
I learned to live half alive
Now you want me one more time
Who do you think you are?
Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of hearts
Tearing love apart
You’re gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul
So don’t come back for me
Who do you think you are?
I hear you’re asking all around
If I am anywhere to be found
But I have grown too strong
To ever fall back in your arms
| ‘Jar of Hearts’ is a song about narcissists who go around using people up and collecting people’s pain like trophies. |
Eminem – ‘Love The Way You Lie’
Now I know we said things, did things that we didn’t mean
Then we fall back into the same patterns
Same routine, but your temper’s just as bad as mine is
You’re the same as me, when it comes to love, you’re just as blinded
Baby, please come back, it wasn’t you
Baby, it was me, maybe our relationship isn’t as crazy as it seems
Maybe that’s what happens when a tornado meets a volcano
All I know is I love you too much to walk away though
Come inside, pick up your bags off the sidewalk
Don’t you hear sincerity in my voice when I talk?
Told you this is my fault, look me in the eyeball
Next time I’m pissed, I’ll aim my fist at the drywall
Next time? There won’t be no next time
I apologize, even though I know it’s lies
I’m tired of the games, I just want her back, I know I’m a liar
If she ever tries to f***ing leave again
I’m a tie her to the bed and set this house on fire
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn?
Well, that’s alright, because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry?
Well, that’s alright, because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
| This song about narcissism depicts how toxic the abuse cycle is for both the abuser and the victim. The narcissist needs the victim for their supply and the victim is addicted to the rollercoaster due to the loyalty created through the trauma bond. |
Halsey – ‘You Should Be Sad’
No, you’re not half the man you think that you are
And you can’t fill the hole inside of you with money, drugs and cars
I’m so glad I never ever had a baby with you
‘Cause you can’t love nothin’ unless there’s somethin’ in it for you
Oh, I feel so sorry
I feel so sad
I tried to help you
It just made you mad
And I had no warnin’
About who you are
I’m just glad I made it out without breakin’ down
And then ran so f***in’ far
That you would never ever touch me again
Won’t see your alligator tears
‘Cause, no, I’ve had enough of them
Let me start this off by sayin’
I really meant well from the start
Take a broken man right in my hands
And then put back all his parts
| This is one of the more obvious songs about narcissists. The singer perfectly describes the narcissist trying to fill their empty hole with material items, drugs and money. Plus, the crocodile tears and trying to fix someone who’s inherently broken and cannot be fixed. |
Kanye West – ‘I Love Kanye’
I miss the old Kanye, straight from the Go Kanye
Chop up the soul Kanye, set on his goals Kanye
I hate the new Kanye, the bad mood Kanye
The always rude Kanye, spaz in the news Kanye
I miss the sweet Kanye, chop up the beats Kanye
I gotta say, at that time I’d like to meet Kanye
See, I invented Kanye, it wasn’t any Kanyes
And now I look and look around and there’s so many Kanyes
I used to love Kanye, I used to love Kanye
I even had the pink polo, I thought I was Kanye
What if Kanye made a song about Kanye
Called “I Miss The Old Kanye”? Man, that’d be so Kanye
That’s all it was Kanye, we still love Kanye
And I love you like Kanye loves Kanye
| This song shows the arrogant, entitled and superior aspects of narcissism. It also speaks of the many alter egos a narcissist’s False Self will create to get ahead in the world. |
Korn – ‘Narcissistic Cannibal’
Don’t wanna be sly and defile you
Desecrate my mind and rely on you
I just wanna break this crown
But it’s hard when I’m so run down
And you’re so cynical
Narcissistic cannibal
Got to bring myself back from the dead
Sometimes I hate the life I made
Everything’s wrong every time
Pushing on, I can’t escape
Everything that comes my way
Is haunting me, taking its sweet time
Holding on, I’m lost in a haze
Fighting life to the end of my days
| This song demonstrates the inner torment of the narcissist’s ego as their master for life. It’s the only way to stop themselves from slipping into their inner black hole, which is a fate worse than death to the narcissist. |
Lady Gaga – ‘Applause’
I stand here waiting for you to bang the gong
To crash the critic saying, “Is it right or is it wrong?”
If only fame had an I.V, baby could I bear?
Being away from you, I found the vein, put it in here
I live for the applause, applause, applause
I live for the applause-plause, live for the applause-plause, live for the-
Way that you cheer and scream for me
The applause, applause, applause
Give me that thing that I love (I’ll turn the lights out)
Put your hands up, make ’em touch, touch (Make it real loud)
Give me that thing that I love (I’ll turn the lights out)
Put your hands up, make ’em touch, touch (Make it real loud)
| This song about narcissists showcases how external validation and adulation are their drugs. They’re always waiting (or hunting) for their next fix. |
Lauren Spencer-Smith – ‘Narcissist’
They’re always charismatic
And they’ll turn up the charm
Their words do something magic
Saying no is really hard
They’re over-generous
You’ll never pay the bills
They’ll fall in love in seconds
Die for you or probably kill
and after six months you’ll feel really stupid
(Ooh) I promise that it’s not your fault you fell for it
‘Cause one little fight breaks into war
Feels like you’re dying on a bathroom floor
You’ll make an excuse, they’ll say that it’s you
And the mirror’s telling you it’s true
Won’t leave, can’t stay, how much are you gonna take?
‘Cause you’ll always get the blame
It feels like shit, but that’s just how it is
When you love a narcissist
| There are no hidden messages here, this song completely unmasks the behaviour of all narcissists. |
Melissa Etheridge – ‘If I Wanted To’
If I wanted to, I could do anything right
I could dance with the devil on a Saturday night
If I wanted to, I could turn matches to gold
smoke, drink, swear, and I would never grow old
I wouldn’t have to be in love with you
If I only wanted to
If I only wanted to
If I wanted to, I could run fast as a train
Be as sharp as a needle that’s twisting your brain
If I wanted to, I could turn mountains to sand
Have political leaders in the palm of my hand
I wouldn’t have to be in love with you
If I only wanted to
Hey, if I only wanted to
I could leave tonight, and I would be all right
Stop holding on if I wanted to, if I only wanted to
| This song about narcissists speaks of their extreme entitlement and superiority complex. They believe, in their fantasy reality, that they sit above all others and can do whatever they like, because they are nothing short of a ‘God.’ |
Metallica – ‘Holier Than Thou’
No more!
The crap rolls out your mouth again
Haven’t changed, your brain is still gelatine
Little whispers circle around your head
Why don’t you worry about yourself instead?
Who are you? Where ya been? Where ya from?
Gossip is burning on the tip of your tongue
You lie so much, you believe yourself
Judge not lest ye be judged yourself
Holier than thou
You are
Holier than thou
You are
You know not
| This song addresses a self-righteous person who constantly judges others to different standards as to what he judges himself. Acting holier than thou is when you think you’re superior to others, which is how narcissists view themselves. |
Rihanna – ‘Take a Bow’
And don’t tell me you’re sorry ’cause you’re not
Baby when I know you’re only sorry you got caught
But you put on quite a show
You really had me goin’
But now it’s time to go
Curtain’s finally closin’
That was quite a show
Very entertaining
But it’s over now
(But it’s over now)
Go on and take a bow
Oh, and the award for the best liar
Goes to you (goes to you)
For makin’ me believe
That you could be
Faithful to me
Let’s hear your speech, ohh
How ’bout a round of applause?
A standin’ ovation
| ‘Take a Bow’ talks about a cheating narcissist who’s obviously giving a fauxpology to try and get away with their bad behaviour. As with any narcissist, they’re NOT sorry for what they did, they’re just sorry they got caught! |
Right Said Fred – ‘I’m Too Sexy’
I’m too sexy for my shirt
Too sexy for my shirt
So sexy it hurts
And I’m too sexy for Milan
Too sexy for Milan,
New York and Japan
And I’m too sexy for your party
Too sexy for your party
No way I’m disco dancing
I’m a model, you know what I mean
And I do my little turn on the catwalk
Yeah, on the catwalk, on the catwalk, yeah
I do my little turn on the catwalk
| ‘I’m Too Sexy’ shows the depth of how extremely inflated a narcissist’s sense of superiority and ‘specialness’ really is. This song is the perfect fit for somatic narcissists, who are hyper-focused on their appearances. They really do think they’re that damn sexy! |
The Rolling Stones – ‘Under My Thumb’
Under my thumb
The girl who once had me down
Under my thumb
The girl who once pushed me around
It’s down to me
The difference in the clothes she wears
Down to me, the change has come
She’s under my thumb
And ain’t it the truth babe?
Under my thumb
It’s a squirmin’ dog who’s just had her day
Under my thumb
A girl who has just changed her ways
It’s down to me
Yes it is
The way she does just what she’s told down to me
The change has come
She’s under my thumb
Ah, ah, say it’s alright
| This song talks about a girl who started off by standing up for herself but ended up submitting to the narcissist’s control. |
Rollins Band – ‘Liar’
I’ll hide behind a smile
and understanding eyes
and I’ll tell you things that you already know
so you can say
I really identify with you, so much
and all the time that you’re needing me
is just the time that I’m bleeding you
don’t you get it yet?
I’ll come to you like an affliction
and I’ll leave you like an addiction
you’ll never forget me
you wanna know why?
cause I’m a liar
yeah I’m a liar
I’ll rip your mind out
I’ll burn your soul
I’ll turn you into me
I’ll turn you into me
cause I’m a liar, a liar
liar, liar, liar, liar
| ‘Liar’ gives us a look inside the narcissist’s mind and provides proof that they know what they’re doing, despite what their manipulations may have you think. Their lies are conscious and they have no intention of stopping or changing! |
Taylor Swift – ‘Mean’
You, with your words like knives
And swords and weapons that you use against me
You have knocked me off my feet again
Got me feeling like I’m nothing
You, with your voice like nails on a chalkboard
Calling me out when I’m wounded
You, picking on the weaker man
Well, you can take me down
With just one single blow
But you don’t know what you don’t know
Someday, I’ll be living in a big old city
And all you’re ever gonna be is mean
Someday, I’ll be big enough so you can’t hit me
And all you’re ever gonna be is mean
Why you gotta be so mean?
You, with your switching sides
And your wildfire lies and your humiliation
You have pointed out my flaws again
As if I don’t already see them
I walk with my head down
Trying to block you out, ’cause I’ll never impress you
I just wanna feel okay again
| Here we can see how the narcissist’s words have been used as weapons over and over again to tear the singer down and rip open her wounds. She talks about how she’s going to move forward in life and better herself while the narcissist will end up old and bitter, rerunning the same old stories. |
The Wannadies – ‘I Love Myself’
I won’t always do the right thing
When I’m alone I’m good company
God damn, I’m one handsome man
You’re a star, I know you quite like me
You make me hard but baby you’re not me
Nobody will love me more than I do
I’m in love with myself
I’m in love with myself
Oh yeah, oh yeah, I love myself
Oh yeah, oh yeah, I love myself
I won’t never disappoint me
When I’m alone looking in the mirror
God oh my, that’s one pretty sight
You’re a charm, but not enough of me
When I’m alone, no one ever disagrees
| Grandiose narcissists are known for how much they are in love with themselves, which is pretty evident here. |
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This is just a small selection of songs about narcissists.
There are plenty more that have been and will continue to be written on the most self-obsessed creatures to walk the planet!
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