Why a Narcissist is Never Really Finished with You

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You might be breathing a sigh of relief, thinking that the narcissist is finally done with you and will leave you alone for good.

But the truth is, the narcissist is never finished with you.

The fact is that your story with the narcissist can only ever be 100% finished when YOU are completely done with THEM. It’s not even their decision! This is YOUR energy and they have absolutely no right to it at all.

When you refuse them all entry to you, plus focus on your healing, that is when the game will finally be up.

Little did you know that you were the one to wield the power all along.

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Why a Narcissist is Never Finished with You

The Truth About Narcissism

Long ago, the narcissist disowned their True Self, which was the part of them that was able to fully embody what it means to be a human. Without their True Self, they’re no longer able to experience empathy, compassion, kindness or love.

They are now an empty, conscienceless vessel with nothing but their ego in charge.

Their ego created a False Self to protect them from the truth, that they are flawed and broken human beings.

To achieve this, it has created an entire false reality for the narcissist to live in, whereby they are superior beings, which the entire universe revolves around. From this stems an air of extreme arrogance and entitlement because they now think they are special and sit above all others.

However, the truth is much darker.

Narcissists are fractured souls, who need to feed off the life force energy of whole souls, in order to keep their psychological state stable.

When the narcissist amputated their authentic self, they also severed their own access to the divine life force. Where that piece of themselves once sat, now sits an empty black hole.

For them to abate the absolute pain and despair, which is the empty void, they seek constant self-medication. The only way they can band-aid that pain is by stealing the life force energy from other people.

But the fix is only ever temporary.

For a narcissist to truly heal, they would need to look within, acknowledge their flaws and re-establish the connection with their inner being. However, the very nature of narcissism makes that a near impossibility.

The ego is a relentless tyrant, who will not allow them to have access to that truth, because that would mean the death of itself (the ego).

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Narcissistic Supply

The narcissist has left themselves living the life of a drug addict, who constantly needs a hit. For a narcissist, their drug is called narcissistic supply.

Narcissistic supply is any attention, which serves to consistently validate the ego’s false narrative, that they are a God.

READ: 2 Types of Narcissistic Supply →

Much like any drug addict, the narcissist will do anything necessary to secure and maintain their supply.

Although narcissists have no capacity to experience love or empathy, they’ve learned through years of observing and practicing, how to fake it, right down to the finest of details.

Narcissists are the greatest actors on Earth.

They are the devil in disguise, with their game always being about controlling others to get what they want, which is resources and energy.

It’s easy now to see why narcissists do not view other people as living, breathing beings, with their own hopes, dreams and desires. They have zero emotional capacity or attachment; therefore, people are merely tools to be used to get their own needs met.

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Why a Narcissist is Never Done with You

Narcissists believe that if they’ve owned you once, they own you forever.

In other words, if they’ve worked you out and know how to manipulate you, they feel pretty confident that they can sweep in at any time and hook you back into their toxic web.

It may be one month, two years or even three decades. But to them, you aren’t gone, you’re just sitting on the shelf for use at a later date.

A narcissist’s life is made up of a string of people, who feed them narcissistic supply. If they run out of supply elsewhere and desperately need a hit, they’ll just walk on back into your life, as though nothing has even changed.

They will often restart the love bombing phase, although this time around it’s called a hoover.

READ: 12 Narcissist Hoovering Tactics →

Once they’ve re-established the connection, by plugging directly back into your life force energy, they’ll revert to the same old abusive cycle, whereby they take and you give.

Narcissists carry such a large superiority complex, that they genuinely believe they are entitled to you and your energy without question.

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The One True Way to Be Finished with a Narcissist

The most painful gift that narcissists bring us, is the ability to see our wounds so that we can heal them.

Narcissists are experts at locating our deepest traumas and ripping them open. Then they’ll proceed to rub salt into them, all in order to extract our life force energy from the heavy emotions and reactions they’ve elicited from us.

The gift hidden in all of this pain is seeing exactly what our unhealed traumas are so that we can acknowledge them and release them from our bodies forever. Energetic healing is the only successful way I’ve found to do this personally. I’ve completely freed myself from many layers of Complex PTSD, which has been life-changing (more on that below).

As we heal ourselves on the deepest of levels, the things that narcissists were able to previously trigger us with, completely evaporate.

We become our own source of love, validation and security, instead of seeking those things outside of ourselves.

We become sovereign beings, who no longer hand our precious power over to anybody else, much less empty voids that can never be satiated.

As we see through the narcissist’s mask, we see the weak, vulnerable child inside, who can never again throw a tantrum in order to manipulate or control us.

The narcissist becomes completely irrelevant to us, which is one of the best signs a narcissist is done with you… because YOU are completely done with THEM.

Energetically Release Your Traumas

If you accept now that the narcissist is never finished with you, however, YOU are completely done with THEM, then it’s time to put all of your energy and focus into your own healing.

Finding a reputable therapist who’s well-practised in narcissism is one great healing modality.

Another much quicker path, should you be so inclined, is taking the energetic route.

The one true way to finally be free of our deep inner wounding is to release it from our energetic field for good. That way, we don’t have to keep experiencing it over and over again. We can finally move on with our soul’s journey.

I personally worked with Selena Hill (below) by having fortnightly sessions for four months. This was my path to healing up many of my traumas, which were caused by, and in turn, triggered by narcissistically abusive relationships over many lifetimes.

If spiritual and energetic work resonates with you, I highly recommend reaching out to Selena and making full use of the discount code for your own healing.

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