Narc Behaviours

Have you had the unfortunate experience of having to care for a sick narcissist? My condolences, because I know how taxing it can be! So, let’s talk about the issues around how narcissists act when they get sick. There are quite a few dynamics that can be at play, depending on the type of narcissist […]

Narcissists are shifty creatures. They walk through life, dressed up as regular human beings just like the rest of us, but deep inside, their self-absorption is all-consuming and even predatory. The strangest thing is, once you’ve had the displeasure of experiencing multiple narcissists, you come out the other side, realising that they’re all actually pretty

One of the biggest weapons of the narcissist is their words. I’m sure you’ve probably experienced many of these examples of narcissist text messages, which showcase just how over the top, fake, self-centred, demanding and unrealistic they really are. If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s easy to see how they will continue

Gaslighting is an extremely manipulative and abusive technique often frequented by narcissists and sociopaths. The purpose of gaslighting is to gain control over the victim by slowly and subtly eroding their own sense of reality, causing them to doubt themselves and their own sense of worth. Funnily enough, narcissists are actually very predictable creatures, which

One of the weirdest things I noticed with my ex-husband was how he’d always walk ahead of me, rather than us walking alongside each other as a couple. Another obvious show of his complete disregard for me (and his own children) was how he’d walk through a door without ever holding it open for the

Money and narcissism are an interesting topic, which I have observed first-hand via the various narcissists in my own life. One of the more obscure questions is, why are the narcissists so stingy with money? With a narcissist, the dynamics can flip from being overgenerous with money, gifts, dinners and so on, to being so

Crying is one of the most natural human emotions, which is directly associated with pain, hurt, joy, exhilaration and overwhelm. It’s easy to assume that narcissists are too cold-hearted to cry, however, that’s not always the case. While some narcissists never cry, others can cry at the click of a finger! The only reason a

The narcissistic apology is the most common and insulting non-apology you’ll ever come across. You know, the “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry you’re so sensitive” type of apologies… which are not actually apologies at all. The only true apology is changed behaviour. Saying the words “I’m sorry” is a completely empty

Unless you are well-versed in narcissism, it can be tricky to know whether or not you’re dealing with one, particularly if narcissistic behaviour was normalised for you throughout your childhood. This narcissist checklist helps to detail the common traits of narcissism and how those characteristics can play out in everyday situations. From there, you will

Hoovering is a common tactic that narcissists will use when you have escaped (or are escaping) their toxic web, and they want to pull you back into their world. Much like a Hoover will vacuum up everything in its path, a narcissist will try to do the same. Hoovering aims to coerce a person, through